Build People Up With Your Words
Good relationships are built on what we’re willing to give more than what we’re willing to receive. When you extend grace, you will receive grace in return!
Perhaps you feel a little bit like Moses today—overwhelmed. Everybody’s asking you for things, and you need to fix all the problems, bring in the finances, and care for them. You need to put things on pause and pray Moses’ prayer: “God, teach me to order my day. Teach me to prioritize the right things, to put what really matters first. Help me to get rid of the clutter.” He has ideas to make your life easier. It’s about ordering your life so you can see your God-calling come to full fruition, so you can be all that God has called you to be.
I love you in this place.
Hey, man, and you may be seated.
I wanna encourage us all today to be bucket fillers. What’s a bucket filler?
A bucket filler is someone who is willing to make deposits, positive deposits in the life of other people.
Not only with their words, but with their actions.
See, a bucket filler is someone who is willing to give.
There’s too many bucket dippers in this world. Too many bucket dippers. What’s a bucket dipper?
A bucket dipper is someone who dips out of the emotional bank of others with harsh words and criticism.
Someone who dips out of the life of other people.
You see, the thing about bucket dippers, bucket dippers don’t even realize that they’re depleting their own bucket.
You see, when you fill other people’s buckets, You’ll have your bucket filled.
We wanna be bucket fillers. We have tremendous power and influence with our words.
Listen to what it says in Ephesians four twenty nine.
It says let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth. But only what is helpful for building others up.
For benefiting the here for extending grace to those other people. For building people up.
You see it is up to us. It starts with us. We can be the builders.
We can be the one to turn this thing around. We don’t have to go with the flow.
But we can swim upstream because we have god on the inside of us.
But we have to make a decision that we’re going to be builders.
You know, not only can we build people with our words, find the best and bring it out in them.
But do you know that our words can literally be the glue that holds our relationships together?
It can literally bind us together when we speak positive faith filled words over one another.
When we’re willing to pick out the good and not see the bad.
You see, it’s easy to see what’s wrong, but it takes a builder to see what’s right.
It takes a builder to know architecturally how to fix things. You are a builder today.
I wanna encourage you with that because too often, we are unconscious about literally what we are doing throughout the day.
And I want us to all go out of here saying I am a builder of people.
Because when I build people, I build myself. Whatever I throw out is gonna come back to me.
Joel and I’ve been married thirty years. And we’ve learned a lot about building.
We’ve learned a lot about extending grace to one another through our words.
To be married for thirty years, you know you have to give each other great grace, and you have to use your words.
To do it. You see, we realize really a good relationship is built on what you’re willing to give.
More than what you’re willing to receive. We all wanna be loved.
We all want the other person to show us kindness.
But to get the kindness, we have to be willing to give because really what you give is really what’s gonna come back to you?
Are you just looking for someone to give you something in your relationship?
I’m telling you this is a principle that if we will understand, I believe things will change in our life.
When we understand that being willing to extend grace and give grace is what’s gonna build our relationships.
We’ve all heard this when we were young. The golden rule your mom probably taught you.
Your first grade teacher probably had you recite it, but did you know that the golden rule is found in Matthew seven twelve It says this.
So in everything, do unto others what you would have them do to you.
You see what I’m saying? Do unto others, which you would have them do unto you.
You know, I think about this When you go buy a shirt or you’re gonna go buy an outfit at the store, you don’t just run into the store and blindly grab something.
Pay for it, run out the door and put it on. No. You choose wisely.
You go in, you look at the clothes, you decide what’s gonna work for you, What will be the best for you, you take time and effort.
You buy those clothes, you take them home, and you put them on. You take time to clothe yourself.
I wanna encourage us to take the same time to choose wisely the words that we speak out of our mouth.
Because the truth is this. We’re gonna wear those words.
We are going to be a product of what we say.
We are going to eat from the fruit of our lips.
You know, sometimes we just throw caution to the wind not thinking it’s gonna affect us, but can I tell you what you say is going to affect you?
Now I have to admit this When I was a young bride and I first married Joel thirty years ago, I didn’t weigh my words.
I wasn’t putting the glue on my relationship like I should have. I’ll never forget this.
God spoke to me one day, and he said Victoria He said, if you don’t begin to choose your words wisely, you’re gonna be sorry.
He basically said, your own words are going to work against you. I was a young bride.
I was a younger I was new to this thing. And I didn’t always weigh my words right.
I was used to kinda having my own way, doing it the way I wanted do it.
And I thought he should get into the program.
But can I tell you this?
I stand up here today, and I remember god speaking to my heart like it was yesterday.
It brought tears to my eyes, It was a serious matter.
And I am so grateful that I took heed to what god told me.
I began to think about what I was building.
I began to think about the grace that I was extending.
You see, I wanted a man that was successful I wanted a man that believed in himself that had confidence.
I wanted to be the buoy that pushed him up, not the anchor that pulled him down, I began to say what I wanted, not what I saw or what I thought I saw, I begin to see the good and bring out the good.
Now can I tell you to this day? I am not perfect.
But I make far more deposits than I do withdrawals. Far more deposits than I do withdrawals.
It’s kinda like your bank account. If you keep writing those checks, you’re gonna go bankrupt.
You gotta put checks in. You gotta fill that account before you think about pulling anything out.
For today, I just wanna encourage every one of us.
We can create a life that we want with the words that we speak.
If you want grace, you better extend grace. Because we’re all becoming. I think about Peter.
He was a disciple of Jesus. He walked with Jesus.
And if you read about Peter’s life, sometimes he was in he was impatient.
He would say things he shouldn’t. In fact, his name, Simon Peter, actually means Pebel.
And I’m sure some of the things he did, he felt like a pebble some days.
But you know what? He was Jesus disciple. And Jesus said, Peter, you’re a rock.
You see, despite Peter’s personality, Jesus called the rock out in him.
He spoke to the potential And we are the church of the living god.
We’ve got to speak to each other’s potential.
We are building this on a solid foundation on a rock.
We can’t be influenced by what we see.
We’ve gotta make a decision that we are builders because I can tell you if you extend grace, you will have it grace extended to you.
We can all be better We’re learning. We’re growing. We’re becoming we’re in the process.
We’re creating Peters all around us as we create the Peter on the inside of us.
Remember, you’re a bucket builder.
Stop and choose your words wisely, because I believe when you do that, when you’re willing extend grace.
That same grace will come back to you, amen. Amen. He’s an awesome god.
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